Professor Dumbledore tells Harry Potter that it’s our choices that show what we truly are far more than our abilities. Don’t we all yearn for someone who makes us feel our mind is a wood to be ignited and not an empty vessel to be filled ?
What happens when you wake up one fine morning and realize you are surging ahead like a rudderless ship ? No sense of direction, you’re headed nowhere..
Then a mentor embarks into your life like a knight in shining Armour to guide you towards your goals and aspirations.
We all need a mentor in every aspect of our life, be it spiritual, vocational, personal etc. The one who sees your weaknesses and makes them as a springboard to develop your skills.
Miyagi, a Martial Arts expert in The Karate Kid movie tells the hero that Karate dwells in the heart and not the mind. He shows him the real reason behind learning the art. It’s not to defeat anyone but to conquer one’s own mind and weakness. It’s for disciplining the self than hurting or fighting with anyone.
A mentor tells you to tread a path in the right way without feeling lost as to why you chose that journey in the first place.
Anyone can walk the path but few know how to walk with diligence and determination. Only a mentor can steer you in that direction.
Debunking the myth that a mentor needs to be someone you know personally, it can be anyone you look upto and emulate their ideas to motivate you into shaping your daily life.
How often are we productive, focused ad mindfully involved ? Edward De Bono, a psychologist devised a parallel thinking method to aid us in our decisions.
He can be a mentor to anyone who struggles with decision making. He said we all mentally switch hats while using the Six Hat thinking method.
The white hat stands for information and facts. The red hat talks about our feelings and intuitions. The yellow hat makes you probe for positives, value and benefit in a situation or person. The green hat indicating creativity gives you an opportunity to put forth new concepts and new perceptions. The black hat spots the difficulties and dangers where things might go wrong. Afterall, one needs a devil’s advocate to make you cautious.
The blue hat directs and manages the whole thinking process. It makes one focus on what is important and which aspect of thinking should be prioritized based on the situation.
We can take decisions with much clarity if we use this above thinking mode opting different colored hats each time we feel deadlocked in a situation.
Why mentors are invaluable ?
Bill Gates credits his success to Warren Buffet for giving him the best of advice on how to deal with tough situations and how to think long-term.
Gates also admires the way Buffet teaches things that are complex and puts them in a simple form so that people can understand and receive benefits.
Sometimes mentors also look upto their students as Buffet says he loves Bill’s view that one should always contribute to the society when there is so much wealth accumulated.
In the movie Dead Poets’ Society, Professor Keatings encourages his students to strive to find their voice as the longer they wait to begin, the less likely they are to find it at all.
Henry David Thoreau said, “ Most men lead lives of quiet desperation.’ A mentor tells you not to resign to that and how to break out.
When you fine The One
Dylan Dreyer, an NBC weekend Today’s meteorologist says when you find a mentor, it does change your life. Find someone you want to be like. You can never be like someone else yet it would help you take actions needed for you to get where you want in your particular life’s path.
Be like a sponge while being mentored by someone. Soak up any ounce of advice the person has to offer you that might help you break through the hurdles.
Mentors can be found anywhere
You are conversing with a friend on WhatsApp who says you’re a masterpiece no matter who comes and goes in your life. Your self-worth is independent of others.
This genuine friend is a mentor at that moment. He makes you see yourself for who you actually are. He brings you back to life when you were feeling down.
There is no hard and fast rule that a mentor is someone who wiser and older to you giving you a dole of wisdom more than you can handle.
Someone who is generous enough to invest time on you and see your true nature and make you build upon it is also a mentor.
Mentors provide a spark
A simple path of guidance pushes you to take that first step in accomplishing your goal. Richard Branson’s uncle Jim told him that whenever people think your idea is barmy, it could actually prove to be a stroke of genius. Branson felt encouraged to take the path less travelled for whatever it is.
Someone who walks the walk
Why do you need a mentor ? You want to know the experience of someone who has already arrived where you want to be. The opportunity to see the day to day experience of someone who has ended exactly where you see yourself in the future is invaluable. When you see somebody’s experience at first hand, you can decide whether you really want to go down that path or are better off where you are.
A mentor can be anyone who stands like the light at the end of a tunnel and paves the way for you to see your real worth.
A teacher who pushes you to your intellectual limits and asks you to seize the day. Someone who sticks by you during your bad times to make you see the good stuff and appreciate them in life. A therapist who helps you see the world in a different way and breaks down the walls you built up inside.