Parenting is a challenging yet a rewarding experience. There is no fixed right or wrong way to do it. Each child brings with them their own set of learning and insights for the parents to learn.
Here is a list of 5 essential and powerful parenting skills that will ensure the children develop into adults that are happy and successful in their own way-
Strive for balance- Balance is a key to achieve excellence. When you are able to strike a balance among emotions like joy, love, care and discipline within your own self, you will be able to successfully provide them to your child as well. When you yourself are balanced, you will give a chance to your child’s intelligence and courage to flourish. The whole purpose of reproduction is to evolve. Our aim as parents should be to raise kids that are more courageous, loving, and intelligent. When we as humans will be less prejudiced and bitter towards each other only then the world will become a better place to live.
Understand your child- every child is unique. There is no set formula or strategy which works with kids. Most of the parents today instead of understanding their children spend their time and effort into transforming them into effective multitask-ers, something that they have always aspired to be. In this process they can end up being extra harsh with the kids. Every child needs different degree of love and toughness. Be extra tough with them and they may end up feeling violated. Be extra loving and you may raise a kid who is powerless. The trick is to understand them and only then will you be able to raise them.
Be open to learning- as soon as we become parents we become “teachers”. But if we look carefully, we will observe that a child is always happy. The reason being that they are more aware and in tune with the joy of being alive. Parents on the hand are adults whose thinking and way of living is influenced by conditionings. Parenthood is essentially a time to let go of these imagined sufferings and be alive, just like a child. It’s time to learn and not teach.
Allow the child to be free- Parenting should be a liberating process and when done right, raises a child who isn’t entangled with his parents. As a child grows, make sure you don’t color his perception with your own sense of morals and ideas. Let the child explore and experience this amazing world with their own eyes. Educate them to think about their own self yet serve people.
Practice what you preach- A child may not listen to you but will always observe you. If you yourself are angry, anxious and jealous – as much as you try, this what your child is going to learn. If you physically disciple a child and you can’t accuse the child of being violent. The idea is to be a balanced, happy and joyous person not only for your own self but also for the future generation. Remember to talk about your feelings. Talk about your mistakes; accept them, because only then evolution will work through you.