“Life is an echo, you get what you give” -Brian. G. Johnson
No person living on this planet earth (considering the fact I did not study aliens) is devoid of the feeling or urge to get love. But is this love an over the counter medicine which you can randomly buy as and when you want? Or is it the destination of a long traversed journey which requires your efforts to reach?
I believe in the second option where love like all the other optimistic fundamentals of life needs to be earned with efforts. If you wish to attract more love you need to give out more and more. People of positive attitude and of self-loving compassion tend to attract the same set of people. Individuals with a sense of intrinsic self-worth are emotionally healthy people who create healthy loving relationships.
Here are some core essentials which will satiate your “pursuit” of love. Raise your hand if this P letter word made you remember the award-winning biographical movie “the Pursuit of Happyness” by Gabriele Muccino.
Although this video by Brendon trains you with only four arms to armour yourself with love and for love, I have slightly added the bells and whistles to present a more clear picture of this camouflaged concept of how to attract love.
F.L.Y (First Love Yourself)
Be the best judge of your own worth, rather than waiting for some other bidder. Accept, value and love yourself to the fullest, because only then will you be the owner of love ocean where even others would love to dive in. Moreover, when a person feels positive within, he/she attracts more of positivity which in the real sense is the love one had been hankering for.
Limit your expectations
No person is a clone of other. Not even Siamese twins. So never expect the other person to perform in the manner similar to you. High level of expectation is like an invisible wall which prohibits the relations from coming closer.
Lear to accept rejections
When you start loving yourself, outsider’s opinion about you does not deter you from how much you worth your being. Henceforth, you accept the fact that it is not possible and hence important to be in the good books of all. You position yourself much above the traffic of negativity which comes with rejection.
Be open and approachable
Being approachable is being divine. Because you are then open to impart others the vibes which attract them towards you. Others love being with you and hence love you. In the provided video Brendon quoted,
“Let go of some structures in yourself, and go into situations with full openness and faith that good things will emerge”
Have you seen a powerhouse? It does not have energy. Rather it generates it. Similarly, we don’t have JOY, we need to generate it from within. A joyful and cheerful person is like a magnet which attracts more and more joy and cheers.
Be with people
Pay attention to people you love and want love from. Make them feel their importance. When you spend more time with people, they enjoy it and thus connect you to more such people, which ultimately give you a 360-degree circle of love, joy and happiness.